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Kochies guide to the right way to handle money in a relationship

IT’S one of those murky areas of any relationship. Money.

We dont know of any relationship which is completely transparent about money. Its just a matter of degree.

New research from financial institution ING shows one in five Australians keep financial secrets from their partner.

The report shows women are most likely to keep financial secrets in case the relationship doesnt work out, while men are more likely to cover up larger purchases their partner could disapprove of.

And how about this for a stat; 40 per cent of Aussies dont know how much their partner earns. As a nation it sounds like were not being entirely honest with each other.

So are these lies harmless, or are they something more sinister? And whats the right way to handle money in a relationship anyway?

Heres our take on the etiquette of love and money.

Just starting out

The start of a new relationship is an exciting time, but should you be baring your financial soul? Amanda Gordon, psychologist and director of Armchair Psychology, doesnt think so.

At the beginning of a relationship money is none of their business; youre getting to know each other and working out whether youre suited to each other, she says.

I certainly wouldnt be bringing money up on the first date, just like Id avoid talking about values and religion and all those sorts of things.

Our advice is to only share what youre comfortable with. Split restaurant bills or weekends away down the middle (or do the chivalrous thing gents), and try to avoid rushing into joint financial commitments.

Getting serious

OK, so youre madly in love and officially an item. Now is the right time to sit down and have a proper conversation about your finances and spending habits.

Financial problems are one of the leading causes of relationship stress. So you need to make sure youre financially compatible and understand each others values.

As Amanda says, youre trying to work out whether youre suitable for each other. Just like you would talk about your feelings on kids or living overseas, talking about money is important when things start to get serious It shouldnt be a taboo.

It may be that each of you are coming in with different expectations of whats the right way to manage money. And money is very complicated these days, with people moving in together just to see.

Take the time to understand your partners financial goals, needs and wants, and make sure they know yours. And talk through how you want to handle everyday joint financial commitments, from rent to groceries.

The last you want is a spend thrift in a relationship with a big spender.

There are no hard and fast rules on how to organise your money as a couple; the right way is one that works for both of you.

Settling down

By this stage you should already be on the same page about money and, ideally, open about your finances. You dont have to be joined at the hip, but youre on the same team and should be managing money together.

Money doesnt need to be talked about all the time, but thats different from hiding things. Being deceitful is bad for any relationship.

Weve always been clear about how we handle the family finances.

She manages the household budget and bills, I do the investments and we make big financial decisions together. And to make sure we are both on the same page, we set aside 15 minutes every month to run the ruler over the finances together.

And while we are 100 per cent committed to our common goals, we both still have personal spending accounts which we can do what we want with. Like buying each other surprise gifts, right Libby?

These are the in demand suburbs where more houses or units sell than anywhere else

THESE are the suburbs where more houses and units sell than anywhere else in Australia.

Demand is high in these areas with many of them consistently chalking up the highest number of sales in recent years.

The latest CoreLogic figures up to the end of July, reveal the unit market in some areas is chalking up very significant sales.

Surfers Paradise once again topped the list for the most unit sales in the past 12 months with 1616 changing hands.


The suburb usually runs neck and neck with the Melbourne CBD for big unit sale numbers. Melbourne achieved 1296 sales in the same period.

The Gold Coast featured very prominently in the top ten suburbs for unit sales.

Surfers Paradise, Gold Coast - 1616

Melbourne - 1296

Southport, Gold Coast - 876

Southbank, VIC - 736

Adelaide, SA - 643

Hope Island, Gold Coast - 634

Labrador, Gold Coast - 572

Dee Why, NSW - 551

South Yarra, VIC - 533

Brisbane city - 530

There are 810 units currently listed for sale in Surfers Paradise on

These range in price from $98,000 for a one-bedroom unit at Ferny Avenue, in the Alpha Sovereign Hotel to $12.5 million for a penthouse in the Chevron Renaissance in Ferny Avenue.

The Penthouse is in the 39th and 40th levels.

Point Cook in Victoria dominated the market in terms of house sales, chalking up 1031 transactions in the past 12 months.

This was followed by Pakenham, also in Victoria, with 1014 sales and Craigieburn, 880.


Point Cook, VIC - 1031

Pakenham, VIC - 1014

Craigieburn, VIC - 880

Orange, NSW - 863

Berwick, VIC - 809

Port Macquarie, NSW - 798

Dubbo, NSW - 742

Werribee, VIC - 669

Mildura - VIC - 661

Frankston, VIC - 643

There are currently 525 houses are listed for sale in Point Cook in Victoria, ranging from $370,000 to $390,000 for a two-bedroom townhouse to a five-bedroom home listed for $1,080,000 to $1,120,000.